Building a Stronger Bond as a Couple

Every relationship is built on few main pillars. Absence or weakening of any of these pillars would create turmoil in the relationship. When it comes to marital relationship, the purest form of a relation where two individuals come together to tie themselves in a bond for the rest of their lives, there are few aspects that form the basis of this relation.

Undoubtedly, first & foremost is the respect for each other. When your partner respects you, care & love automatically follow in. Giving due respect to each other when in public, with family & relatives or alone – it all matters! Showing disrespect to your partner is actually disrespecting your relationship and giving the world a chance to mock on your relationship.

With respect in first place, care & love are certain to follow. It’s an amazing feeling when you care for your partner and receive the same in return, strengthening the bond between you two. Believe me its absolutely justified to have expectation from your partner. Caring is infact understanding each other. Understanding not just what’s said but also the unsaid.

Proactively understanding & judging the need and taking an action makes the other person feel caressed and loved. A basic classic example is a wife serving dinner who finds her husband looking around and she gets him the salt, without even him saying a word. Though this might not look something praiseworthy, but yes, it does touches the chord of the recipient. Such seemingly trivial things, do help build up a deeper bond.

You might have heard many people saying that trust builds over time. But I differ here a bit! I feel that relationship built on trust goes all the way long and its not easy for any external forces to destroy such relation. Its not so hard to build trust if there is uninterrupted, honest & truthful communication between the two. Rely on your own inner judgement rather than believing a third person telling anything about our partner. In fact, its better to discuss any such issues directly with your partner rather than keeping to yourself and spoiling your relationship or spying on your partner. Avoid any misunderstanding by keeping communication alive within the two. Layer of misunderstanding, once formed, thickens with the time…better to avoid.

Honestly speaking, these all factors are interlinked, when you respect, you care; when you trust, you tend to share & communicate and this opens up the doors for a healthy relationship. But still, does this guarantee a successful marriage? Of course not, but the chances are high for a successful & peaceful marriage.

Another very important aspect is giving equal importance to each other and their family & considering each other’s role as an equal participant in family. Any differences here are sure to lead to a tussle. Avoid the topics that are expected to lead to a heated conversation; especially topics related to in-laws. Your partner might get repulsive if you say anything for his/her parents, even if it is unintentional. Moreover, it may be something well known to your partner but accepting the fact that your partner is saying so, is still difficult. Acceptance to the deterrent facts that does exist with the parents is hard, hence better to avoid any such discussions.

This is one of the major reasons that initiates fight quite often, even for an otherwise well understanding couple. This is one moment when the couple actually tends to forget their own sweet relationship and falls prey to anger. Anger overpowers all other feelings of love, care, trust etc. Controlling the anger and keeping yourself composed especially when your partner in in anger, is the key. Easier said than done, but its more important to get out of the anger situation and then talk to each other.

It is all about the harmony & understanding between the two. Getting married is easier but finding the right person and getting married to the one who can understand you and bond well with you for the rest of life is what needs an effort.